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I read MetaFilter and AskMetafilter with some regularity, so I also follow MetaTalk, where people talk about how the other sites work, how people interact with them, etc. Relationship questions are super common on AskMe, and they're sometimes interesting and sometimes appalling and sometimes frustrating ... much like people and relationships ( Read more... )

CNN recently aired some coverage of the verdicts against the Steubenville rapists that was all, "boo hoo, these poor boys' lives are ruined." I won't link to the video, but here's a link to The Raw Story's critique of it. The critique is right on, and I am utterly amazed and disgusted at the CNN coverage. I largely avoid mainstream media, because, ( Read more... )

As a rule, any time you are about to start a statement, "Why don't you just ...", you should keep your mouth shut and think more carefully about the topic from the perspective of the person you're talking to. You are almost certainly about to oversimplify in a dismissive and insulting way ( Read more... )

eestiplika, veek, baby NAZ, and I were hanging out today, mostly on the back porch, which was pretty much unadulturated awesome in the perfect weather. At one point, though, after the Memorial Day parade had made its way (its long, long, looooong way) past, we decided to venture into Davis for quesadillas ( Read more... )

Trying to explain another man's sexism is never going to win you friends among the population of folks who think sexist behavior is always shitty.

You know this conversation?

you: Hey, Bob, how are you?
bob: Hey, good, thanks, how are you?
you: Good, thanks! How 'bout you?
...

I hate it when I do that. It's right up there with replying, "Fine, thanks!" when the teller at the bank asks, "How can I help you?"

Dear Professor Hill,

Reading the NYT piece about Virginia Thomas's recent phone callreminded me of something I wish I'd done sooner, which is to deeply ( Read more... )

We all fuck up sometimes. It sucks, and we hate it. But almost always, when we fuck up, we need to apologize for it. Frequently, there's more to do, as well, but even if there are other amends to make, the apology is a non-optional step. Here are some tips:

Say it's come to your attention that you fucked up. How do you handle it?

( How to apologize, in 6 steps. )

I'm having a grouchy day, so this is totally disproportionately annoying, but ( Read more... )